I used to be able to plan things. I can’t anymore. My resolution this year is to put more laughter back into my life. Now who would have thought that could be such a hard thing to do? My family, by nature, is made up of a bunch of class clowns. Our parents (because of my grandparents I’m sure) make sure that we were raised with a sense of humor.
I have been trying desperately to “go with the flow” of things this year; that’s not working either. Too many things are causing me to be side-tracked. Uninvited, or better, unexpected circumstances. Example:
•The fire across the street on an extremely windy day.
•The kid from another state broken down in our driveway.
•Getting sucked into helping a broken-down kid (for two months now – grr).
•Child uprooting their life – AGAIN.
•Hot weather – wet weather – cold weather – dry weather – windy weather – no wind weather – ALL IN ONE WEEK.
•Grasshoppers from hell and barn fowl that would rather dig up my potatoes than eat them?
These, from a distance, may not seem like much, but when they are hitting all together at the same time – ENOUGH ALREADY! Time for a really – REALLY – deep breath…
HAPPY – HAPPY – JOY – JOY
I have decided to fight back at all my “Unexpected’s” starting today! So I, Rachel Helberg, do at this moment initiate the following rules into my life (again):
1.More Laughter. This will be brought about by the following:
- Stop longer during barn fowl feeding time and actually watch all the baby birds at play. We have both baby chickens and baby guinea birds. They are all in a variety of colors, and some are now old enough to chase bugs – NOW THAT’S FUNNY! Try not to laugh when a couple of chicks are chasing a grasshopper that is almost as big as them.
- Pick off one of my new fresh tomatoes and instead of bringing it in for processing, sit down and gobble the whole thing all by myself. Let it squirt out and drool down my front (it’s my farm shirt anyway – already dirty – lol).
- Watch the wild barn kittens play whack-a-mole with each other on a wood pile.
- Stop and look around more – there are so many great things to see and laugh at and will be missed if I don’t stop to enjoy them.
- Stay up till after dark and look up – remember what stars look like?!?
- Get the water squirt guns out more and nail my grandson before he gets me (ya, usually don’t get this one right – lol).
2. JUST SAY “NO”… to the following
Life suckers. These are the people that slowly suck the life out of you. Unfortunately, they are usually hooked in before you even know they are attacking. They approach you so gently, innocently, and sneaky (was going to say sneakily – but I don’t think that’s a word?). Before you know it, they have you doing all kinds of things you really do not want to do.
- I don’t want to drive you somewhere because you are too lazy to walk.
- I don’t want to run you around because you lost your license.
- I don’t want to give you our food because you blew all your money on a tattoo instead of getting your own food.
- I don’t want to wait on my laundry because you don’t think to finish yours.
The above are just examples of ways I get “sucked in” to doing stuff because I am (so I’ve been told) too nice. This becomes a major emotional conflict for me. I want to believe and follow the “do unto others” scenario, but there are now too many others in life that are completely unfamiliar that statement. So how do I turn it off? AND – do I want to turn it off? We have seen that there are good people out there, and hope we are in that group. But how do you spot the “Suckers” and stop them before they drain you into vampire-ism (you know – lifeless).
3. More Self Meditating (NOT MEDICATING – although that’s a thought too – hee hee)
I did have a ritual in the evening that I developed in which I took 1-hour before bed to just sit quietly and contemplate nothing. I KNOW – SOUNDS CRAZY RIGHT? Not really. It is very relaxing and refreshing at the same time. I listen to myself breathe, thinking about purple cows (this trick is from a very good family friend). Try it – there is no such thing in the world as a purple cow, so you really have to focus to try to picture one. This little trick manages to push back all the jumbled mess I had rolling around up there from the day and force it to drift away. (FYI – one bit of helpful info before you try this – – – make sure you write down any/everything you need to remember for the future. If you don’t it may slip away from you – lmao – yes, happened to me a lot until I set a notepad beside my meditating area – duh!)
Hopefully, these three little changes will bring back my laughter. My sister has been helping a ton with our Friday Night Game Night. We started this for my Grandson. It is our special family time to just play games. It doesn’t matter what they are as long as we are doing it all together. The current favs are Yahtzee and Trouble. Have to admit that a couple of beers and a game of Yahtzee can be very therapeutic. Especially when you start bringing up stupid things from your past like “how did we survive being kids?” Now there are some funny stories….for another day!